When people think of adoption, they often think only of young healthy children or babies. In every country where ICANZ goes, there are untold numbers of children waiting, often languishing for lack of personal loving attention, waiting for a family; they are called "Waiting Children", "Special Focus Children" or sometimes "Special Needs Children". The term " "special needs" can be scary or intimidating, leading people to believe all waiting children are not healthy.
Typically these children fall into these categories:
Older childare typically over 8 or 9 years, depending on the country. They may long for a permanent family and have no special health issues, yet because they are older, fewer families wish to adopt them. When an older child joins a new family, there are both joys and challenges for the child, parent and other family members. It is indeed wonderful to see a child settle into a new family and to make enduring links with other family members, friends and neighbours. Children may also bring some of the stressful traumatic experiences of their earlier lives into their new families. Parents must be prepared to help them deal with this, to learn new ways of behaving and a new language.
Large Sibling Groups
Family groups of 3, 4, 5 or more children, often with the oldest child aged 9 or older, may be classified as waiting children; because few adopting parents wish to adopt 3 or more children at once and because it is challenging to parent a larger group all at once. Families need to have the resources to parent a larger number of children.
Children with medical needs, of all ages
Children with medical needs have the same need as any other child for a secure and permanent family relationship. These medical needs are more than minor needs that are quickly and easily rectified with minor surgery. The family needs to research the medical facts on the condition and source the best medical treatment in the area in which they live. Waiting children include children with developmental needs, of all ages. All children living in orphanages are likely to have some developmental delays across all areas; physical growth delays, cognitive delays, speech delays, social developmental delays. Research indicates that we can expect a delay of one month for every three months in an orphanage. This expected delay, sometimes referred to as mild global developmental delay, may categorise a child as special needs. A child with such delays may catch up to his age peers, or may progress at a normal rate from their delayed start, but never regain the lost years, resulting for example, in completing school a year older than other children. Other children may have some condition preventing normal development. Parents need to have realistic expectations and celebrate whatever progress their child achieves.
Sample profiles of waiting children
Children’s privacy is very important. The brief profiles on this page have been modified to protect their privacy while giving you a glimpse into the lives of children with special needs who are waiting for a family. They are not children currently waiting for adoption, though there are many children similar to these who are waiting in orphanages. In order to receive information on actual children you must be approved as an adoptive parent and have a completed adoptive applicant home study report.
If you have not yet done so, we would encourage you to begin the process to obtain a home study report with approval to adopt a special focus child.
Physical Development She is underweight but otherwise has normal development. Her age is unknown and has been estimated.
Medical problem No known medical problems.
Emotional & Psychological Development The child was abandoned at a railway station. She has memories of the past. Adoptive parents must be ready to show patience, empathy and deal with her sadness about the past traumas. When found she was not able to speak the local language so has changed languages and is therefore behind at school.
NOTE - this is a typical situation for many children waiting for adoption in India.
1 year old
Physical Development The child is developing normally, though is small for age
Medical problem Born with cleft palate and cleft lip and will require surgery, on-going speech therapy and dental treatment. Mental growth is normal.
Emotional & Psychological Development Very well, very active and emotional development is normal. Friendly, outgoing infant.
NOTE - in many countries cleft palate and lip does not place a child on the "special needs" list unless it is extremely severe. Children with cleft palate may be matched to those applying via a regular adoption programme who have indicated they are willing to adopt a child with this need.
10,7 and 4 years
Physical Development The children are developing normally, and are considered healthy.
Medical problem The children have no known medical problems
Emotional & Psychological Development The children are developing normally but have suffered the trauma of a dysfunctional life prior to entering the orphanage.
Physical Development The child is developing normally, except for things that require two arms.
Medical problem Born with one limb absent.
Emotional & Psychological Development A friendly, ougoing child, well adjusted to his missing limb.
NOTE - there are many children in Indian orphanages who have a missing, shortened or deformed limb.
Physical Development The child is developing normally physically but moderate deafness prevents normal speech development. Makes some sounds.
Medical problem Born with moderate deafness.
Emotional & Psychological Development A friendly, outgoing child.
Relinquished/ Abandoned Abandoned
Physical Development He has achieved all of his milestones. He is able to walk alone and moves all over the building. Very active and intelligent.
Medical problem Has Alopecia over scalp.
Emotional & Psychological Development He attends school and is friendly with other pupils. He is active and normal. His physical and mental development is normal. He likes playing with toys and psychological development is normal. He is very interested in cycling.
Physical Development She has not achieved all her milestones.
Medical problem The child is suffering with umbilical Hernia, and she is a low birth weight baby. Her mental growth is normal.
Emotional & Psychological Development She is not aware of her problem. Her emotional development is normal. She is an average girl. She is able to understand and she loves to play with toys.
If you want to open your heart and your home to a special focus child that is “waiting”, talk to us.